tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post112113177455567097..comments2024-02-24T03:24:24.785-05:00Comments on writing as jo(e): Rambling Thoughts from the Emergency Roomjo(e)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comBlogger18125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121204656635338962005-07-12T17:44:00.000-04:002005-07-12T17:44:00.000-04:00This post is beautiful. I love the idea of re-see...This post is beautiful. I love the idea of re-seeing something in yourself as a gift rather than something problematic.BrightStar (B*)https://www.blogger.com/profile/11167685794935402108noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121196833299351142005-07-12T15:33:00.000-04:002005-07-12T15:33:00.000-04:00Hugs to you and the spouse.Hugs to you and the spouse.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121194971239516372005-07-12T15:02:00.000-04:002005-07-12T15:02:00.000-04:00or when I let myself get focused on caring for som...<I>or when I let myself get focused on caring for someone else because it's infinitely more easy to do than take care of my own crap.</I><BR/><BR/>I do this... less than I used to at least, but still probably too much for my own good. It's one of the reasons I limit my professional life to fixing machines, not people.<BR/><BR/>Jo(e) I hope Spouse is doing better!Mr. Snifflyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09946900574204857432noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121193535859484162005-07-12T14:38:00.000-04:002005-07-12T14:38:00.000-04:00when I let myself get focused on caring for someon...<I>when I let myself get focused on caring for someone else because it's infinitely more easy to do than take care of my own crap</I><BR/><BR/>Friday Mom, I knew we had a lot in common.jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121188277923728312005-07-12T13:11:00.000-04:002005-07-12T13:11:00.000-04:00More hugs to you, jo(e)! I hope spouse is better ...More hugs to you, jo(e)! I hope spouse is better soon.Phantom Scribblerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03258384756183844406noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121183839211480062005-07-12T11:57:00.000-04:002005-07-12T11:57:00.000-04:00Thinking of you both, Jo(e).Thinking of you both, Jo(e).Psycho Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05633634991906191853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121183525763638012005-07-12T11:52:00.000-04:002005-07-12T11:52:00.000-04:00Ack! I used the apostrophe to make a plural. [Hang...Ack! I used the apostrophe to make a plural. [Hangs head in shame.]Rob Helpy-Chalkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13814390262154687969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121182454062738792005-07-12T11:34:00.000-04:002005-07-12T11:34:00.000-04:00Rob: You are so right about the gender roles. In...Rob: You are so right about the gender roles. In the community I live in, most of the caretaking does fall to the women. <BR/><BR/>When my father-in-law was dying, my husband had no clue what to say or how to act in the hospital. I had to model that behavior for him because it is not something he learned growing up. Boys of that generation were not taught how to be nurturing. I see some improvement with my kids' generation. <BR/><BR/>I <I>do</I> need to be reminded from time to time to take care of myself. Often I have to actually leave my community -- going off camping or to the monastery -- to do that.jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121181932463847752005-07-12T11:25:00.000-04:002005-07-12T11:25:00.000-04:00Jo(e): Being a caretaker is an excellent way to be...Jo(e): Being a caretaker is an excellent way to be. But you have to take care of yourself too. You know that, but with all character traits, it helps to be reminded often. <BR/><BR/>The world needs a lot more people like you. <BR/><BR/>Also: dare I bring up the gender issue? Too much caretaking falls on women's shoulder's. My mother (who herself had only boys) always says that you must cultivate good relationships with your daughters in law, because they will pick out your nursing home. I always assure her that I will be there for her when she is old. She then promises not to be a burden, and turns around and talks to my wife for three hours on the phone.Rob Helpy-Chalkhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13814390262154687969noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121179770923001622005-07-12T10:49:00.000-04:002005-07-12T10:49:00.000-04:00Mona: Yeah, I am glad that we were home when it h...Mona: Yeah, I am glad that we were home when it happened. And I realize how lucky we are to have health insurance and such; I grew up in a family without health insurance and I can remember any illness being a major financial crisis. <BR/><BR/>Spouse is feeling much better. He is even off the pain medication today. And I was just getting used to the drugged husband! (I have never seen my husband drunk or stoned -- he is pretty cleancut -- so being around him when he was all drugged out was a whole new experience for me.)jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121178676319787172005-07-12T10:31:00.000-04:002005-07-12T10:31:00.000-04:00Very lucky you were home when the kidney stone att...Very lucky you were home when the kidney stone attack happened, versus being in a tent or out in the woods. I hope he's feeling much better.Mona Buonanottehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01809435868294190789noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121178032874046942005-07-12T10:20:00.000-04:002005-07-12T10:20:00.000-04:00Dear Jo(e), I caretake, too, and I beat myself up ...Dear Jo(e), I caretake, too, and I beat myself up for it. Your post is a great reminder that being a caretaker does not imply weakness. I hope that things are improving for you and Spouse. Hugs your way.RussianVioletshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03045862026820768104noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121175427232609692005-07-12T09:37:00.000-04:002005-07-12T09:37:00.000-04:00How's the spouse?How's the spouse?Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121166100603219212005-07-12T07:01:00.000-04:002005-07-12T07:01:00.000-04:00Thanks for the hug Rana. I did get a whole night's...Thanks for the hug Rana. I did get a whole night's sleep last night -- and I feel much better today.jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121164712101784592005-07-12T06:38:00.000-04:002005-07-12T06:38:00.000-04:00Jo(e), you've got a good heart. I wish that the ho...Jo(e), you've got a good heart. I wish that the hospital had a better chair for you to sleep in.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121153704303493542005-07-12T03:35:00.000-04:002005-07-12T03:35:00.000-04:00This post brings back my own late-night emergency ...This post brings back my own late-night emergency room days. Also thoughts of why I really should think of going back to medical school one of these days. I miss the caretaker part.negativecapabilityhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08014108944008633157noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121151241467554992005-07-12T02:54:00.000-04:002005-07-12T02:54:00.000-04:00It is a blessing to the world that there are peopl...It is a blessing to the world that there are people like you out there.Suzie Petuniahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13387520367654400467noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1121135507252288412005-07-11T22:31:00.000-04:002005-07-11T22:31:00.000-04:00jo(e), there is blessing in your tingling hands.jo(e), there is blessing in your tingling hands.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/08235049965406944684noreply@blogger.com