tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post115471871728042232..comments2024-03-21T03:35:20.539-04:00Comments on writing as jo(e): Difficultjo(e)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comBlogger35125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1156285813171554682006-08-22T18:30:00.000-04:002006-08-22T18:30:00.000-04:00Just catching up with my summer reading =o)I kno...Just catching up with my summer reading =o)<BR/><BR/>I know how hard this is for all involved. You are in my thoughts and prayers.<BR/><BR/>Oh, and expect a "Blue Period" -- there are those in my family who call them "Picasso moments"; where noses will seem askew to her and she mourns the loss of her independence. It's a hard thing, but she probably will go through it.Theresa Colemanhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12134175277230355640noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1156214443236859422006-08-21T22:40:00.000-04:002006-08-21T22:40:00.000-04:00We are going through the same thing right now. Mom...We are going through the same thing right now. Mom has dementia so she really can't remember day to day why she has moved. At this point it's all so hard. I don't second guess my decision to move her, it's just hard to deal with it everyday. After years of being the caregiver I am worn out yet I can't be, I have to go on and be strong for her. So many of us are going through this right now. I was searching online for ideas to cope and came across your site.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1155041543116481142006-08-08T08:52:00.000-04:002006-08-08T08:52:00.000-04:00We have been through a move like that. It is neve...We have been through a move like that. It is never easy. She will adjust to her new place and hopefully will love it once she gets to meet some new friends.BeachMamahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17936777379292996065noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154991593563720272006-08-07T18:59:00.000-04:002006-08-07T18:59:00.000-04:00It is always so terribly hard. I hope she settles...It is always so terribly hard. I hope she settles in quickly and makes some friends.halloweenloverhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05226515861332754382noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154958118286673462006-08-07T09:41:00.000-04:002006-08-07T09:41:00.000-04:00Difficult and heartbreaking to read, too, as we al...Difficult and heartbreaking to read, too, as we all move toward the age where we'll have to make these decisions.Cuphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/00306848986781193911noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154908887052205202006-08-06T20:01:00.000-04:002006-08-06T20:01:00.000-04:00Oh jo(e) - that's tough. ((Hugs)) to you and your...Oh jo(e) - that's tough. ((Hugs)) to you and your family. It'll get better, for you and for her.DaniGirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04419923174468788289noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154885787220904702006-08-06T13:36:00.000-04:002006-08-06T13:36:00.000-04:00Thanks for all the supportive comments everyone. ...Thanks for all the supportive comments everyone. We've had lots of phone calls from my mother-in-law, and we've gone over there several times, but I think she is starting to get used to the place. I think after a period of adjustment, she is going to be fine.<BR/><BR/>Now we just have to tackle the issue of what to do with her house and all the stuff in it ....jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154836155086904182006-08-05T23:49:00.000-04:002006-08-05T23:49:00.000-04:00So sorry -- we went through the same thing with my...So sorry -- we went through the same thing with my great-grandmother a few years ago. I can't imagine living in one home for 47 years....Kylahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15893411099852385440noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154826952517374432006-08-05T21:15:00.000-04:002006-08-05T21:15:00.000-04:00(o)(o)Suehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03407981987874669303noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154826285245321202006-08-05T21:04:00.000-04:002006-08-05T21:04:00.000-04:00Hugs.Hugs.Liz Millerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09469435277058701080noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154813502875209552006-08-05T17:31:00.000-04:002006-08-05T17:31:00.000-04:00Yes, very difficult indeed. Prayers for you both g...Yes, very difficult indeed. Prayers for you both going through this.Anonymoushttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14654861033242845082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154807737639905922006-08-05T15:55:00.000-04:002006-08-05T15:55:00.000-04:00(o)(o)Juleshttps://www.blogger.com/profile/18324456402703897094noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154803042687299212006-08-05T14:37:00.000-04:002006-08-05T14:37:00.000-04:00OH, man. I can imagine how difficult that would b...OH, man. I can imagine how difficult that would be. My grandmother made a similar move several years before her death and it was very sad, saying goodbye to all those years in a house that represented so much more than walls and carpet.Kristenhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02667140531327670081noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154802086428329072006-08-05T14:21:00.000-04:002006-08-05T14:21:00.000-04:00Beautiful post.It IS hard. My grandmother (at 100...Beautiful post.<BR/><BR/>It IS hard. My grandmother (at 100) has been out of her home for about 12-14 years now. It's also hard to see the house we all remember as the scene of so many events large and small slowly deteriorate (it hasn't been either sold or cared for) and hard to see the woman who was such a vibrant hostess and conversationalist shrink into the darkness of deafness and blindness.Gannet Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16374279595560691174noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154793037956340672006-08-05T11:50:00.000-04:002006-08-05T11:50:00.000-04:00I worked in several assisted living and nursing ho...I worked in several assisted living and nursing homes, and I do see where you're coming from. It's difficult to let go, but sometimes, letting go is the best thing you can do. I'm sure your mother-in-law will be taken cared of very well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154789539491249242006-08-05T10:52:00.000-04:002006-08-05T10:52:00.000-04:00It is very hard, but you have handled everything w...It is very hard, but you have handled everything with such grace and compassion. Good for you for facing the difficult but important work.Scrivenerhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05922358016805022637noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154788461301624822006-08-05T10:34:00.000-04:002006-08-05T10:34:00.000-04:00Brilliant post. I love the way you convey the emot...Brilliant post. I love the way you convey the emotions. It IS hard, but so right. We didn't do as much for my grandmother and she became increasingly frightened and confused and, oddly, angry. She lived her last few years in a kind of paranoid frustration. So thank God that you all are doing the difficult work now. Prayers and hugs to you all.Mariehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09005040876956039402noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154783279236362832006-08-05T09:07:00.000-04:002006-08-05T09:07:00.000-04:00My heart goes out to you and your family. That is ...My heart goes out to you and your family. That is difficult, but is definitely the best for everyone.Marnihttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03543853940645527249noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154761190562254922006-08-05T02:59:00.000-04:002006-08-05T02:59:00.000-04:00Hard on everyone I guess... so many memories to le...Hard on everyone I guess... so many memories to leave behindSallyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01759963926280667938noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154749960217901692006-08-04T23:52:00.000-04:002006-08-04T23:52:00.000-04:00Hard, very hard. Hugs to all.Hard, very hard. Hugs to all.Yankee, Transferredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06627693160131161133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154747080589992642006-08-04T23:04:00.000-04:002006-08-04T23:04:00.000-04:00It is hard. xoIt is hard. <BR/>xoPsycho Kittyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/05633634991906191853noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154745793936207652006-08-04T22:43:00.000-04:002006-08-04T22:43:00.000-04:00This must be hard. Perhaps I'm fortunate that my ...This must be hard. Perhaps I'm fortunate that my mom works in a decent nursing home and does not dread moving into one as necessary.... at least, that is what she says now, living in her own place :).<BR/><BR/>I hope that her new place has some social programs and opportunities. Many of my older relatives have enjoyed having their friends in the building. Since they don't need a ride to be social, they are more independent than when they were in their own homes. They also like the fact that when their kids come to visit, they can actually visit instead of doing the laundry and mowing the lawn.Inside the Philosophy Factoryhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12255753259090709877noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154743517136933012006-08-04T22:05:00.000-04:002006-08-04T22:05:00.000-04:00it's sad but it's good that she's in a place that ...it's sad but it's good that she's in a place that can serve her needs. My grandparents refused to even consider leaving their own home and it ended in disaster and much sadness. Now my wife's mom is headed in that same direction, also refusing to consider anything other than her own apartment. I know it must be hard, but I hope if I get to that stage I'll remember this and be able to let go.Chiphttps://www.blogger.com/profile/01503422107908380716noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154743092167784182006-08-04T21:58:00.000-04:002006-08-04T21:58:00.000-04:00(o)(o)Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-1154742636281281102006-08-04T21:50:00.000-04:002006-08-04T21:50:00.000-04:00I spent yet another drive home from Grandma's sobb...I spent yet another drive home from Grandma's sobbing tonight because she really can't take care of herself and I can't do it from afar either much longer.<BR/><BR/>I cried when I read this post because at least your mother-in-law will be safe and cared for. It hurts so much not knowing that for my grandmother who lives too far to drop in on more than once a week.<BR/><BR/>(o) and best wishes to your whole family. It is such a painful chapter for everyone.Mirandahttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17213051651383936247noreply@blogger.com