tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post494403434854593678..comments2024-03-21T03:35:20.539-04:00Comments on writing as jo(e): Pretendjo(e)http://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comBlogger19125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-5004719092253647972010-01-20T11:17:06.281-05:002010-01-20T11:17:06.281-05:00Ineffably sad that they need you to be their mom. ...Ineffably sad that they need you to be their mom. Good that they have you.<br /><br />(My word verification is WORDS. I think that's the best one ever.)Magpiehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15460136246441367993noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-61574657314556225712010-01-17T17:28:21.212-05:002010-01-17T17:28:21.212-05:00thanks for the story on the kids- they are in my p...thanks for the story on the kids- they are in my prayers and it's nice to have an update of sorts. blessings on you- as always.Lomagirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/09273397354830985024noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-69369716425786287942010-01-17T14:36:38.038-05:002010-01-17T14:36:38.038-05:00It's obvious that he's made great progress...It's obvious that he's made great progress under your watch. <br /><br />One thing that stood out to me is that he must love and respect you a lot--it seems like he'd do anything to please you. <br /><br />I hope they live next to you for a very long time. <br /><br />They've latched on to you so tightly.BrightenedBoyhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04140255969796496082noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-33331506790893021962010-01-17T13:11:33.589-05:002010-01-17T13:11:33.589-05:00Jennifer (ponderosa): I think (hope) that the &qu...Jennifer (ponderosa): I think (hope) that the "like a normal kid" comment meant "like a kid in a normal family".<br /><br />And I think it's a good thing that they know their situation isn't normal - thinking that an abusive situation is normal is what contributes to the "cycle of abuse". I think the example that jo(e) provides makes it a lot more likely that they'll break the cycle.Tie-Dye Brother-in-lawnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-67286701990615942282010-01-17T11:01:21.074-05:002010-01-17T11:01:21.074-05:00This made me cry. Jo(e), I hope you realize what a...This made me cry. Jo(e), I hope you realize what a big deal it is that you are a stable, loving presence in these kids' lives. No matter what happens as they grow up, whenever they are having a hard time, whenever they are having trouble remembering that grown-ups CAN be counted on, whenever they need to remember that they are likable and lovable people, they will remember you. You will provide a contradiction to the rest of their lives, and that will make things go that much better for them. Thank you for doing this.Katehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16995641658376827290noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-39835475100165245282010-01-17T05:06:00.023-05:002010-01-17T05:06:00.023-05:00Jennifer said it in her second comment above - you...Jennifer said it in her second comment above - you do them such a great gift by having expectations of them. BB must have been so proud of himself.Jenniferhttp://www.magpiedays.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-48377745096966798572010-01-16T22:03:20.413-05:002010-01-16T22:03:20.413-05:00Jennifer (Ponderosa): My husband knows the princi...Jennifer (Ponderosa): My husband knows the principal of the school the kids go to, and he's talked to her. We can give the school info but because of FERPA, the communication can't be two-way (which I totally understand). The principal is aware of the kids' situation. I'm hugely thankful that the school gives these kids a safe place to go to every day: I can't imagine dealing with Little Biker Boy AND a whole class full of little kids for a whole day, but his teacher seems to handle it just fine. Thankfully, it's a school with good resources for kids like these. <br /><br />Tie-dye Brother-in-law: They are always anxious to stay, which is sad. But they seemed to see the furnace guy coming as some kind of cool event, which I guess makes sense if you're a little kid.jo(e)https://www.blogger.com/profile/01488562158252331555noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-23277769726892637622010-01-16T20:37:50.807-05:002010-01-16T20:37:50.807-05:00that line, "like a normal kid." makes me...that line, "like a normal kid." makes me think someone tells him he's not a normal kid. <br /><br />that makes me sad. <br /><br />i'm happy, though, those 2 kids have your home to come to as a refuge.RageyOnehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03690295219089454070noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-46230558380527320482010-01-16T17:56:36.375-05:002010-01-16T17:56:36.375-05:00You are the Best Neighbor Ever. I mean Ever in the...You are the Best Neighbor Ever. I mean Ever in the History of the Universe.Kathy Rogershttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02980621565856010779noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-10274170891669437372010-01-16T15:43:05.905-05:002010-01-16T15:43:05.905-05:00Also? I love that you've set a bar -- a high b...Also? I love that you've set a bar -- a high bar, I'd say, for a kid with that background -- that he is able to reach. "I told you I would." I bet he was proud of himself. That's a great gift: giving him something to be proud of.Jennifer (ponderosa)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17712875613623664156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-85842696713686843782010-01-16T15:38:55.070-05:002010-01-16T15:38:55.070-05:00Well, now, what did he mean by "like a normal...Well, now, what did he mean by "like a normal kid"? I thought he meant he knows his behavior is abnormal. My son, who's often seen the inside of the principal's office, has made comments like that. His phrase would be "like a good kid," though.<br /><br />Does the school know about you? My son's principal and I are in constant communication, which I know helps him & the principal. I don't imagine Biker Boy's mother is able to give his schooling that kind of attention.Jennifer (ponderosa)https://www.blogger.com/profile/17712875613623664156noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-73066761237005857652010-01-16T11:03:27.704-05:002010-01-16T11:03:27.704-05:00All of the above. Those poor kids.All of the above. Those poor kids.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-90720037857010669712010-01-16T10:23:39.973-05:002010-01-16T10:23:39.973-05:00Oh, they break my heart. I'm so glad they have...Oh, they break my heart. I'm so glad they have you - I hope they never move!Psycgirlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13476028853857792495noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-53078560962985320172010-01-16T07:55:47.500-05:002010-01-16T07:55:47.500-05:00I often stop by quickly to see if you have anythin...I often stop by quickly to see if you have anything to share about Biker Boy and Ponytail. I am always hoping that they are still coming to see you and that you are filling them with opportunities they would not be getting at home. I am so thankful that you are there for them.BeachMamahttp://www.lifeisgoodatthebeach.ca/noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-17475307310810785172010-01-16T07:42:14.694-05:002010-01-16T07:42:14.694-05:00Queen of the West said what I was going to say. Th...Queen of the West said what I was going to say. The most heartbreaking part of these kids' story is that they KNOW it's not normal. They KNOW that other kids have something else.sko3http://skoplusone.wordpress.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-37491284657166770412010-01-15T23:11:25.676-05:002010-01-15T23:11:25.676-05:00If I lived near you and needed someone, I would to...If I lived near you and needed someone, I would totally lean on you.Yankee, Transferredhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/06627693160131161133noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-83081687667246350372010-01-15T22:49:43.197-05:002010-01-15T22:49:43.197-05:00I just hope they weren't anxious to stay becau...I just hope they weren't anxious to stay because something bad was happening at home.Tie-Dye Brother-in-lawnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-26883675339038157342010-01-15T22:37:15.036-05:002010-01-15T22:37:15.036-05:00its amazing what we take for granted. Its nice to...its amazing what we take for granted. Its nice to get these reality checks every now and then to make us all step back and say ... how lucky am I to have the life I do.Donna's chitchathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/03523989922691248424noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-9799907.post-18349176118594260712010-01-15T21:37:59.010-05:002010-01-15T21:37:59.010-05:00That is so sweet. But that one line of Biker Boy&#...That is so sweet. But that one line of Biker Boy's -- "like a normal kid" -- completely broke my heart.Queen of West Procrastinationhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/17216968234999269409noreply@blogger.com