July 12, 2005

No More Stones, No More Drugs

Spouse came home from the doctor's today with a good report. It looks like the kidney stone episode is officially over. He's no longer in pain, no longer on mind-altering drugs, and the whole thing is becoming a dim memory. I expected the stones to look like the kind of thing I would pick up and skip across a pond, but really they looked more like grains of sand. Funny that something so small could cause so much pain.

It is rather unsettling to see someone you love writhing in intense pain. I've had only one experience with intense physical pain; six years ago I broke my leg in two places. This kidney stone episode was Spouse's first experience with intense physical pain, and he didn't much like it.

The other new thing for me - once the pain medication took effect and Spouse was no longer writhing in pain - was getting to experience my husband in a drugged state. I've known him since 1978 (we met in high school), and I've never seen him drunk or stoned because he has never been drunk or stoned. I am always a little curious to see how a person acts on drugs because it kind of amplifies their personality. Spouse, I was pleased to discover, is the sort of happy drunk who rambles on and on about how wonderful is wife is. This made me optimistic about any future episodes in which I will need to be his caretaker.

It's in the 90s here, another hot humid day, so I've decided to set up the massage table in our bedroom. (We have a portable massage table but the room is too small to leave it set up.) Massage is one thing that works well in this kind of heat. Hot humid weather relaxes the muscles, makes them easy to work on. I think after the sort of hellish night we had in the emergency room on Sunday, it is time to get those medical images out of our heads -- and celebrate the body.

24 comments:

Angry Pregnant Lawyer said...

Glad the spouse is home, and with a good health report!

Rob Helpy-Chalk said...

Glad to hear that was over so quickly. People generally describe passing a stone as *the* most painful medical experience.

Be careful about drunks and other people who need caretaking, though. Their mood can turn on a dime. You may have seen that caring for your aging family members.

RussianViolets said...

I love your spouse. All I need to do now is find a man who will carry on about how amazing I am while drunk. 'Tis a good thing he realizes how luck he is to have you.

Phantom Scribbler said...

I'm glad that he's better now! Here's to no more unhappy returns.

~profgrrrrl~ said...

Hope he has a speedy recovery ...

Mona Buonanotte said...

Sergei's had two hospital experiences in our 12 years together, and whatever drugs they gave him turned him into the happiest puppy I've ever seen! Albeit one who repeated the same thing over and over and over.... Darn cute!

Lisa V said...

I have heard for men that kidney stones are the only things that come close to labor. How anyone knows this I don't know. It's like when people say freezing to death is a nice death. Who could really know this with authority?

Glad everyone feels better, including you.

negativecapability said...

I'm glad he's feeling better - good thing he came out of it to find an awesome caretaker!

bitchphd said...

Ah, yes, kidney stones suck. I came home from high school once to find my mom in acute pain saying she was going to die. I laughed at her for being melodramatic (a good way to short-circuit my mom's tendency to catastrophize), carried (!) her to the car, then the hospital, and it was kidney stones.

Am glad Mr. Jo(e) is feeling better.

Rana said...

I'm glad things have turned out well. The massage sounds like a good plan, too. :)

English Concertina said...

Your spouse sounds like a really nice kind of guy. I know one who would be bitching and complaining like hell. Yes, it's true that kidney stones are exactly like natural childbirth, only worse. One itty bitty kidney stone can make everything in your guts contract and spew out both ends, with an earth-shattering all-over feeling like you're dying. The pain is incredible.

Mel said...

drink water, everyone. LOTS of water.

I used to work in a urology clinic . . . kidney stones are horrible. And there are lots of other conditions also exacerbated by the American tendency towards dehydration.

Scrivener said...

Glad to hear he's feeling better too.

Oliver said...

I'm also glad he's feeling better - it sounded like a worrying time.

My mom suffered from them a few years ago, and I've never seen her in that much pain. It was pretty scary.

Dr. Sniffly said...

Very glad he's feeling better now.

I've been told that after surgery when Mr. Sniffly met me in the recovery room, I was effusive about how happy I was to see him and how great he was. Need to get him doped up and see if he'll reciprocate!

Psycho Kitty said...

Glad the spouse is okay...and I'll be over in 15 minutes for the massage table. Sigh.

Mr. Sniffly said...

Glad to here he's better!

I live in something akin to mortal fear of kidney stones.

PPB said...

So glad everything's okay. I hope you get some rest, too.

Friday Mom said...

Glad the spouse is better, and I can assure you that if someone broke out the massage table after an episode like that I'd be feeling better really fast. Great plan to celebrate the body after the kind of fight a kidney stone causes.

Running2Ks said...

I'm glad all is well. I have heard that stone as described like childbirth. But I wonder--my brother-in-law puked for his. Anyway, puke on the mind due to a sick kid.....moving on. Re: spouse in a drugged state. When my husband had apnea surgery, I saw that and it was the scariest thing I ever saw. He was so childlike and confused. Hope the recovery is speedy at your home.

BrightStar said...

very good news! Yay!

Danny said...

I've watched my wife give birth twice, once without any drugs, but it wasn't until I saw one of my church youth (a football player on the high school team) in the hospital with a broken ankle, crying in pain, even with all the drugs the hospital was giving him. I realized then that I've never experienced that kind of pain, and I hope and pray that we all experience as little of it as possible.

halloweenlover said...

Glad the spouse is feeling better! It is awful to see someone we love in pain, but happy sweet drunk is great!

Moreena said...

OK, I'm coming kind of late to comment here, but I'm glad to read that the kidney stone episode is over. You sound like exactly the kind of person we needed next to us in the ER many a night. Glad to hear about the happy, appreciative drunk. Annika gets that way, too. I actually took a bit of video of her after her biopsy last year, and I should post it sometime. 3-year-olds on drugs. Hilarious.